Charisma Connection

The Path to the Horse

Nancy Proulx - Monday, July 25, 2016

Horses are “helping over civilized people reconnect with the wisdom and rhythms of the world.” Linda Kohanov, Riding Between the World.

The over civilized state of being is the world many of us live in. Not only with horses but in our everyday lives. This disconnect puts more value on our rational thinking and learned mental patterns causing us to override our hearts. Leaving us searching and lost in a world of thoughts and trying to figuring things out. The mind that is full of chatter is a place horses run from. The natural vibration of horses reside in a more alpha state of being. Horses have a less verbal more telepathic or sensory way of being. These beautifully sensitive animals can teach us to sense with our whole bodies. This path can teach you to hear from a deeper place within, where you are not as addicted to the technique, but feel the fluidness of the dance. Horses want us to become more empathic and responsive in the moment. It’s not that we throw out all that we have learned about the technique of riding. We learn to simultaneously sense the horse, its emotional, mental and spiritual state along with feeling our own bodies. We feel with the horse, in a sense become the horse. The ability to reconnect and sense our own bodies connects us to our emotions, instincts and intuition. It is in this place of connection with ourself, our original nature, that give us the key to open up and unlock the nature of the horse.

A solid connection to our body and our instincts should be one of the first things we address before we even think about being with horses. Many problems with horses arise because we don’t even know what we are feeling and we unconsciously program or project our issue on to our horses(animals, children etc.). One exercise I found helpful is to spend some time just being with your horse. Sit and sense into your own body. Scan your body. What are you feeling? Is there any frustration, anxiety, joy, excitement? Another question to sense into is “are these my emotions or the horses”? Emotions are contagious! The horse will only magnify and act out what is unconscious in you. The horse is wired to feel into their environment, so make sure you know what you are putting out. This exercise will help you in connecting to your body. Emotions are the gateway to our body and also the language of animals. The difference between a rider and the art of riding is based on clarity of self, this self awareness is the first step.

The Feedback Loop

Nancy Proulx - Sunday, July 24, 2016

I've had a couple people and horses that I've been doing some coaching with that have had their mounts refuse to move forward. First and foremost we check the horses out to make sure there is no pain. In both these horses, work needed to be done on their backs. Once given the all clear we started back to see if the resistance still existed. Even though the physical pain was gone there was something blocking forward movement. Was it coming from the horse or the person? Sometimes we will never know the exact details but in my experience it works as a feedback loop. The horse heals the person and the person heals the horse. In both these cases the people had an unhealthy relationship with their dominant nature. They judged the dominance quality of people as a negative trait. The horses can sense this lack of wholeness in their riders and reacted to it. What does healing look like? Keeping both the horse and the rider present is important. Both these horses were high sensitives and learned to disassociate in order to endure things that stressed them out. Keeping things very slow and making sure that each lesson is embodied and no one is unconsciously pushed to far out of their comfort zone. Each lesson has to be finished with both horse and rider feeling relaxed and confident. For the one horse and rider it meant only walking for two or three weeks. Me supporting both from the ground. Only stepping in to help reinforce safety or the learning curve of the rider on how to use her dominance through the use of her own energy in a non predatory way. We want to teach a horse to have communication with us, but not in a defensive move. Just like people, horses develop coping mechanisms. They develop neuropathways from the brain to the body that cause them to just react. We need to retrain the horse out of it's reactive response, whether it was caused from past pain or bad training. The rider also needs to learn to feel into the horse and respond appropriately. If you have a fear of being bucked off it's programed into your body. Slowly with good support and positive experiences a trust and confidence can build in the rider and horse. They feed off each other in a conscious way. I'm happy to say that both these horses and owners are enjoying each other and the freedom of movement. The horses actually now ask for the permission to move forward and it is with joy.